Anger and Stress

According to NBC News, in Chicago, there is a place called “Anger Rooms,” where guests can unleash their anger by smashing and destroying objects like glass or a TV. Of course, you have to pay a fee for that. The room can also be set up to look like an office or a kitchen so that guests can experience this one-of-a-kind therapeutic experience to release their frustrations.   

Donna Alexander, the creator of the Anger Room, first thought of the idea as a teenager living in Chicago, She said that after she had witnessed domestic violence and fights at school as a teenager, she wanted to create a space where anyone can lash out without serious consequences. 

The 30-minute session in the Anger Room, where you could literally destroy everything in the room in order to de-stress yourself is not a therapy; it is absurdity. The reason is that it may de-stress you during that session, but it does not address the stress issue itself, which is the origin of your problem. So, what would you do the next time you find yourself in a similar stressful situation—destroying your own room like you did before? Stress comes from the ego-self. Get rid of your ego, and there will be no stress. 

“No Ego No Stress” is made up of 4 parts.

PART ONE An Introduction to Stress:

It explains how and where stress comes from; the damage and devastation of stress to human health.

PART TWO Conventional Wisdom:

The major life stressors come from career, money, relationship, adversity, and time. Conventional wisdom offers many strategies for stress relief, such as exercise, herbs, medications, meditation, and psychotherapies, among many others. Conventional wisdom may reduce stress levels, but it does not eradicate stress completely. Conventional wisdom only complements the ancient Tao wisdom for ultimate stress relief.

PART THREE Tao Wisdom:

This part not only explains what Tao wisdom is all about, but also contains the complete translation in simple English of all the 81 short chapters of “Tao Te Ching” which is one of the most translated works in world literature. Going through the whole script, interpreted and translated by the author, will enable you to understand the essentials of Tao wisdom for stress-free contemporary living.

PART FOUR No Ego No Stress:

Stress originates from the human mind: how it perceives and processes life experiences. What is stress to one individual may not be stress to another. This part explains in detail how having no ego can eradicate all stress related to career, relationship, money, adversity, and time.

Stress is one of the many underlying causes of human diseases, especially autoimmune diseases, and a major stumbling block in natural health and self-healing. Unfortunately, stress is common in modern living: it may come from careers, relationships, finance, and simply everyday living. To get rid of stress, you need more than just relaxation techniques to help you:  you need to get rid of your ego. Without your  ego, you have no stress. It's just simple!

Get your book: NO EGO NO STRESS.

Stephen Lau

Your Stress and Your Ego

Stress comes from your mind, which originates from your ego. Stress is one of the many underlying causes of human diseases. If you have been diagnosed with an life-threatening disease, it is particularly important not to let stress worsen your disease symptoms or prognosis. Let go of your ego is let go of your stress. There is no other way.

Overcome stress with Tao wisdom, the ancient Chinese wisdom  of Lao Tzu,  the sage who authored the immortal classic "Tao Te Ching. "  This ancient classic has become one of the most translated books in world literature; its popularity is due to its  profound and unconventional wisdom, which is both intriguing and controversial. Tao wisdom may hold the key to stress relief for modern living.

"NO EGO NO STRESS" is a 134-page book on how to use the Tao wisdom to relieve stress. All stress-relief strategies of contemporary wisdom cannot totally eliminate everyday stress; they may only complement the ancient Tao wisdom in coping with stress. Live your life as if everything is a miracle.

NO EGO NO STRESS is available on Amazon (only $2.99).

PART ONE: An Introduction to Stress

It explains how and where stress comes from; the damage and devastation of stress to human health.

PART TWO: Conventional Wisdom

The major life stressors come from career, money, relationship, adversity, and time. Conventional wisdom offers many strategies for stress relief, such as exercise, herbs, medications, meditation, and psychotherapies, among others. Conventional wisdom may reduce stress levels, but it does not eradicate stress completely. Conventional wisdom only complements the ancient Tao wisdom for ultimate stress relief.

PART THREE: Tao Wisdom

This part not only explains what Tao wisdom is all about, but also contains the complete translation in simple English of all the 81 short chapters of “Tao Te Ching.” Going through the whole script, interpreted and translated by the author, will enable you to understand better the essentials of Tao wisdom for stress-free contemporary living.

PART FOUR: No Ego No Stress

Stress originates from the human mind: how it perceives and processes life experiences. What is stress to one individual may not be stress to another. This part explains in detail how having no ego can eradicate stress related to career, relationship, money, adversity, and time.

Learn how to use the ancient Tao wisdom to overcome stress related to autoimmune disease.

NO EGO NO STRESS” points out how the human ego is formed by the subconscious mind through its perceptions and interpretations of life experiences. The author relates to the famous saying by Descartes, the great French philosopher: “I think, therefore I am.” It is a myth or misconception that you are “who” and “what” you think; you are not the products of your thoughts. “Who” and “what” you think you have become is just your ego-self, erroneously created by your thinking mind.

Tao wisdom focuses on the need of “emptying” and “reversing” the human mindset in order to see “who” and “what” you truly are, without any attachment to your ego. According to Lao Tzu, the ego is unreal, because it is based on past memories and projections of those memories into the future as desires and expectations. The past was gone, and the future is yet to come; only the present is real. Therefore, the ego-self that exists in the past or in the future is non-existing in the present, except in the mind. Without the ego, there is no need of protecting or sustaining it. Without fear and expectation, there is no need of judging, picking and choosing—they often result in making wrong choices and decisions, and thus creating stress. With no ego, there is no need of over-doing to fulfill the expectation. The problem with conventional wisdom is that the mind focuses on the past or the future, but seldom stays in the present. Only when the mind stays in the present can it see things as they really are and not as what they should be. Tao wisdom is essentially understanding of the true nature of things: that everything in life follows a natural order and pattern, such as life begets death, success is followed by failure, what goes up must come down. Tao wisdom is self-intuition to know and understand self and others, as well as the world around.

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Stephen Lau

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Which Is Stressful: Concentration or Mindfulness?

Many of us do not concentrate on one thing at a time because our minds are compulsive; that is to say, our minds are multitasking. Concentrating on multiple things at the same time is always stressful.

But is concentration itself stressful?

Concentration is forcing the mind to focus on one static point using willpower. For example, if you concentrate on writing an essay or studying a topic for an examination, you may put in so much of your attention or time that you even forget your dinner. Worse, if you are multi-tasking, trying to concentrate on doing several things at the same time.

Mindfulness is different from concentration in that in mindfulness you are noticing something in a relaxed manner. That is to say, your attention is naturally spontaneous without any undue distraction.

Practice mindful walking: walking while paying attention to your steps, the movements of your limbs or focusing your eyes on the sidewalk or a distant object or building. The objective of the attention is to shut off your mind to give it a meaningful break.

Stephen Lau
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