Tuesday, August 23, 2016

How Your Emotions Affect Your Body

Your mind is the generator of your emotions because it perceives, interprets, generalizes your thoughts, which then become your assumptions that affect how you act or react in the physical world. Your mind affects your body; as a matter of fact, there is a close connection between the body and the mind.     

According to Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), human emotions are the major underlying causes of disease because Chinese physicians believe that certain body organs are related to emotional activities; for example, the heart is related to joy, the liver to anger, the spleen to obsessive thoughts, the lungs to anxiety, and the kidneys to fear. Therefore, excessive emotions disrupt the free flow of qi, the life-giving energy that flows through the body, and thus causing imbalance and disharmony that may lead to disease and disorder.   

In addition, human behaviors—often a byproduct of human emotions—affect the mind, just as emotions of the mind affect the body. According to a study at Ohio State University in 2003, physical behavior, such as enhanced body language of nodding in agreement or shaking head in disagreement, may significantly affect how we think without our knowing it. According to that study, even posture, such as sitting up straight, may be conducive to remembering positive memories or thinking positively, because posture changes the production of human hormones.   

The interconnection between the body and the mind is further evidenced by the indisputable notion that a healthy heart produces a healthy brain by pumping sufficient oxygen and nutrients to nourish the brain through its bloodstream.   

As If Everything Is A Miracle   

This 125-page book is about how to live your life as if everything is a miracle, instead of as if nothing is a miracle. To do just that, you need wisdom to "rethink" your mind, which may not be telling you the whole truth about your thoughts and life experiences; you need wisdom to "renew" your body, which lives in a toxic physical environment; you need spiritual wisdom to "reconnect" your soul, which is the essence of your spirituality. Most importantly, you need wisdom to "realign" your whole being because the body, the mind, and the soul are all interconnected and interdependent on one another for your well-being to live your life as if everything is a miracle. Your mind is the roadmap and your soul is the compass; without them, your body is going nowhere, and you will live your life as if nothing is a miracle.   

With enlightenment, you will become a better, happier, and healthier you. With enlightenment, you will live a stress-fee life. Learn how to overcome your stress by letting go your ego-self. No Ego No Stress!  

Stephen Lau 
Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Thursday, August 18, 2016

Letting Go Is Like Breathing Out

Letting go is wisdom in living. In this day and age, humans have a tendency to hold on to anything and everything they can get hold of. Just take a look at your basement: it may be cluttered with junks that you don’t have the time to sort out or to get rid of. It is human nature to attach to anything that identifies them or they can identify themselves with. Attachment can be material, such as the clothes you wear or the car you drive; it can also be mental and emotional, such as the feeling of being successful or the toxic emotion of regret and bitterness. Letting go is the key to living a happy life as if everything is a miracle.

Letting go is like breathing out, which has to be deep and complete. Learn how to breathe correctly; many people don’t breathe right because they are not conscious of their breathing. Breathe right to help you in your everyday life and living. Remember, a healthy mind always has an easy breath, giving a relaxed body. Humans tend to focus on breathing in—which is akin to holding on or refusing to let go of any attachment—to the extent that they may completely neglect what happens when they breathe out, as if it were not that important. This discrepancy needs to be corrected, in order to create a free-flowing breath. Concentrating on breathing in may fill up the lungs with air all the time, such that the breathing becomes quicker and shorter, and thus stressing both the body and the mind. This may, ironically enough, lead to “feeling out of breath.” The wisdom of correct breathing is, paradoxically, to empty the lungs of air so that it may be filled completely with air.

Remember, in optimal breathing, the breathing out should be longer than the breathing in; without emptying first through breathing out, there will be no room for filling in by way of breathing in. Likewise, you need to let go of any attachment before you can receive new things in your life. After all, life is forever changing, and nothing is permanent. So, just let go to let God

Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Sunday, August 14, 2016

New Book Published on Amazon

I have just published my book on Amazon:

Words are neither effective nor ineffective; they just impart different meanings to the sentences in which they are used. It is the writer's effective use of words and phrases that makes sentences effective or ineffective.

The English language is made up of nearly a million words and phrases. A writer, especially one whose English is not his or her first language, may face two major problems in writing: not knowing "enough" words; and not knowing how to choose the "right" words. 

Writing is made up of words. Effective writing requires having a good stock of vocabulary, as well as selecting the most suitable words and phrases to express the  ded ideas.

There are many English words and phrases that are frequently confused and misused by ESL learners. This book provides hundreds of those words and phrases with examples to show how they should be used correctly, such as: advance and advancement; acceptance and acceptation; accountable to and accountable for; acquirement and acquisition, etc. 

Stephen Lau


Thursday, August 11, 2016

Controlling the Uncontrollable

Understanding how the mind works may help you understand how you can control your mind to your advantage.

The Conscious and the Subconscious Mind

The mind—the consciousness of the brain—has two components: the conscious mind, and the subconscious mind. All your experiences and perceptions of what happens in your life impacted by your five senses are stored in both your conscious mind and subconscious mind.

Unlike the conscious mind, the subconscious mind embraces indiscriminately all life experiences and perceptions of those happenings encountered in life.

Your subconscious mind is like the basement of your house where you dump all the physical possessions you have been hoarding over the years.
Your conscious mind is like the living area in your house, where you proudly display only some of the physical possessions you have chosen according to your likes and dislikes, such as a piece of antique furniture in the living room, or an original painting hanging on the wall in the dining room.

Your conscious mind filters all your thoughts—what you think is appropriate or relevant for your mental storage. In other words, your conscious mind consciously chooses what it wants to remember. Your subconscious mind, on the other hand, simply absorbs all your mental perceptions and reactions to all your experiences; it does not have the power to reason or to analyze any mental input. That is to say, it may not be able to tell the half-truths from the truths. Yet, it is your subconscious mind that controls your whole being, because your subconscious mind dominates your conscious mind.

Your conscious mind makes decisions, but it is your subconscious mind that directs and manipulates your conscious mind. If you immediately turn on the TV as soon as you get home from work, most probably it is your subconscious mind telling your conscious mind that now is the time for relaxation and for watching  television. Many people talk on the cell phone while driving -- that, too, is the subconscious mind doing the driving while the conscious mind is doing the driving. 

Controlling the Uncontrollable

Don’t let your mind control your thoughts, which may ultimately become the materials with which you create your ego-self. With your inflated ego, and not the real you or your true self, you may then have many attachments that make you reluctant to let go of. All attachments are no more than distractions of the mind from facing real challenges in life. Learn how to let go of control—especially control of what is uncontrollable. Get the wisdom to let go to let God.

Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Tuesday, August 9, 2016

The Wisdom of Letting Go

I have just published the following book on AMAZON:

The Wisdom of Letting Go

The pursuit of human happiness is forever elusive and evasive. Why? It requires human wisdom to ask the right questions, and spiritual wisdom to seek self-enlightening answers to the questions asked throughout our life journey.

Human wisdom comes from the mind: an empty mindset with reverse thinking; mindfulness living in the present with no expectation and no picking; and spontaneity with understanding of the natural cycle of all things, that is, what goes up must also come down. The ancient Tao wisdom from China may enhance human wisdom.

With human wisdom, one may see the wisdom of letting go of all attachments in the material world. Attachments are the raw materials with which we often create the self-delusive realities of the ego-self. Letting go of the ego and all its attachments may let us see the true nature of everything: who we really are, not who we wish we were, and what we really need, not what we desire.

The ego is the human flaw that not only undermines the natural human wisdom but also distorts the lens through which we see the world around us. Therefore, we need spiritual wisdom to complement the inadequate human wisdom, to guide the soul on our life journey. Spiritual wisdom can only be attained through trust and obedience to the Creator, which is letting go to let God.

The above is what this book is all about.

If this book is right for you, you can get it from AMAZON. Click here for the digital copy and here for the paperback edition.

Stephen Lau

Monday, August 1, 2016

What Is Enlightenment?

Live your life as if everything is a miracle. To do just that, you need enlightenment, not knowledge. Knowledge is different from wisdom in that the former is acquisition of knowledge, while the latter is the intuition of the knowledge gathered. Knowledge may make you smart, but not necessarily wise. Wisdom may lead to even enlightenment, which is profound understanding of the ultimate truths of all matters.

What is enlightenment? It is an endless process of knowing and understanding that is simply there for all, and its existence is natural and available to all. It is like knowing that at sunrise you will see sunlight as long as you open your eyes; you don’t have to know anything else about the sun other than its presence—but you have to open your eyes to see its presence.  

This 125-page book is about how to live your life as if everything is a miracle, instead of as if nothing is a miracle. To do just that, you need wisdom to "rethink" your mind, which may not be telling you the whole truth about your thoughts and life experiences; you need wisdom to "renew" your body, which lives in a toxic physical environment; you need spiritual wisdom to "reconnect" your soul, which is the essence of your spirituality. Most importantly, you need wisdom to "realign" your whole being because the body, the mind, and the soul are all interconnected and interdependent on one another for your well-being to live your life as if everything is a miracle. Your mind is the roadmap and your soul is the compass; without them, your body is going nowhere, and you will live your life as if nothing is a miracle.

With enlightenment, you will become a better, happier, and healthier you. With enlightenment, you will live a stress-fee life. Learn how to overcome your stress by letting go your ego-self. No Ego No Stress!

Stephen Lau

Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Thursday, July 28, 2016

Stress Comes from the Mind

Stress comes from the mind, and stress is the underlying cause of many diseases and disorders.

With no ego and no stress, you may live longer and healthier as if everything is a miracle.

"NO EGO NO STRESS" a 134-page book on how to use the ancient wisdom from China to relieve stress. All stress-relief strategies of contemporary wisdom cannot totally eliminate everyday stress; they only complement the ancient Tao wisdom in coping with stress. Live your life as if everything is a miracle. 

The unconventional wisdom in the book may hold the key to living a longer and healthier life. 

Learn how to use the ancient wisdom to eradicate your everyday stress. Specifically, it is about Tao wisdom, which originates from the ancient Chinese sage Lao Tzu the author of “Tao Te Ching”—one of the most translated works in world literature. “Tao Te Ching” is popular due to its profound and unconventional wisdom, which is both intriguing and controversial.

“NO EGO NO STRESS” is divided into four parts:

PART ONE An Introduction to Stress: It explains how and where stress comes from; the damage and devastation of stress to human health.

PART TWO Conventional Wisdom: The major life stressors come from careermoneyrelationshipadversity, and time. Conventional wisdom offers many strategies for stress relief, such as exercise, herbs, medications, meditation, and psychotherapies, among many others. Conventional wisdom may reduce stress levels, but it does not eradicate stress completely. Conventional wisdom only complements the ancient Tao wisdom for ultimate stress relief.

PART THREE Tao Wisdom: This part not only explains what Tao wisdom is all about, but also contains the complete translation in simple English of all the 81 short chapters of “Tao Te Ching.” Going through the whole script, interpreted and translated by the author, will enable you to understand the essentials of Tao wisdom for stress-free contemporary living.

PART FOUR No Ego No Stress: Stress originates from the human mind: how it perceives and processes life experiences. What is stress to one individual may not be stress to another. This part explains in detail how having no ego can eradicate stress related to career, relationship, money, adversity, and time.

”NO EGO NO STRESS” points out how the human ego is formed by the subconscious mind through its perceptions and interpretations of life experiences. The author relates to the famous saying by Descartes, the great French philosopher: “I think, therefore I am.” It is a myth or misconception that you are “who” and “what” you think; you are not the products of your thoughts. “Who” and “what” you think you have become is just your ego-self, erroneously created by your thinking mind.

Tao wisdom focuses on the need of “emptying” and “reversing” the human mindset in order to see “who” and “what” you truly are, without any attachment to your ego. According to Lao Tzu, the ego is unreal, because it is based on past memories and projections of those memories into the future as desires and expectations. The past was gone, and the future is yet to come; only the present is real. Therefore, the ego-self that exists in the past or in the future is non-existing in the present, except in the mind. Without the ego, there is no need of protecting or sustaining it. Without fear and expectation, there is no need of judging, picking and choosing—they often result in making wrong choices and decisions, and thus creating stress. With no ego, there is no need of over-doing to fulfill the expectation. The problem with conventional wisdom is that the mind focuses on the past or the future, but seldom stays in the present. Only when the mind stays in the present can it see things as they really are and not as what they should be. Tao wisdom is essentially understanding of the true nature of things: that everything in life follows a natural order and pattern, such as life begets death, success is followed by failure, what goes up must come down. Tao wisdom is self-intuition to know and understand self and others, as well as the world around.

Get your download for only $2.99 from Amazon. This is the book for life and living

Stephen Lau

Tuesday, July 19, 2016

Bedtime Rituals for a Compulsive Mind

We spend at least one third of our time staying in bed. Have you ever thought of doing some bedtime rituals? Seriously, they may be conduce to your longevity—if not, at least, beneficial to your overall health.

Before going to bed or while lying on your bed, do the following:
  • Lie on your back. Bend both knees.
  • Use both hands to pull your knees towards your chest, and breathe naturally.
  • Hold for one to two minutes, and relax.
  • Straighten your legs, putting your arms and hands at your sides. Relax for one to two minutes.
  • Take a deep breath, and stretch both arms upwards above your head.
  • Then, slowly bring your hands down while you breathe out.
  • Massage your body from your chest to your abdomen for a few minutes.
  • Bring both hands at your sides, and relax.
  • Repeat as necessary until you feel drowsy and fall asleep.

In the morning, as soon as you are fully awake, do the "wake-up stretches" before you get up to "awaken" your body and your senses, thereby instrumental in preventing aches and pains in your body.

According to Dr. Robert Oexman, director of the Sleep to Live Institute, "The greatest incidence of slipped discs occurs  within 30 to 60 minutes after we wake up."

Extend your arms over your head and extend your legs as far as possible, as evidenced by the stretch in the tips of your fingers and toes. Meanwhile, inhale deeply through your nose. Then breathe out deeply and slowly while drawing your arms down along the side your body with your palms facing up. You will feel full relaxation in your legs. Repeat the stretches several times to energize as well as to relax your body.

Do a single or double knee hug. Start by bringing your knee into your chest. Massage your hip joint by moving your leg in circles in both directions. Repeat with the other knee. Finally, hug both knees into your chest, raising your nose to your knees as much as possible. Now relax your body and let your knees fall gently down to either side. Repeat the whole process several times for stretch and relaxation.

All of the above are simple and easy to do before going to sleep and before getting up. Sadly, many of us simply go to bed when we are too exhausted from watching the television; worse, we may even pop up a sleeping pill. In the morning, we get up in a hurry as soon as we hear the alarm clock buzzing. Come to think of it, we are living in a compulsive world, aren’t we? We have no time to do little things that will have great impact on our health, while we have time texting trivial matters.

Bottom line: many of us simply have a compulsive mind, that cannot and will not want to slow down.

Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Thursday, July 14, 2016

The Book of Life and Living - FREE copy

Get this book for FREE only today (July 14, 2016)! Click here.

The Book of Life and Living is a 190-page book on wisdom in living, based on the integration of conventional wisdom, the ancient Tao wisdom from China, and the spiritual wisdom of the Bible. The art of living well is holistic living with balance and harmony of the body, the mind, and the spirit.

Tao wisdom is based on the wisdom of Lao Tzu, the ancient sage from China some 2,600 years ago. Lao Tzu was the author of Tao Te Ching, the immortal classic on human wisdom, which has become one of the most translated works in world literature, probably ranking with the Bible as one of the top ten in popularity.

Without the true human wisdom expressed by Lao Tzu in Tao Te Ching, it would be difficult, if not impossible, to live in this day and age as if everything is a miracle.

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Mental Illness?

There has been much controversy over gun control after much gun violence, such as a reporter and her camera man being gunned down in front of the TV camera, campus violence, and theater massacre, among other horrific police shootings in the United States.. 

Gun violence has been attributed to the "mental illness" of the aggressors and killers. But do they really have "mental illness"?

First of all, what is mental illness? 

Mental illnesses are medical conditions that disrupt a person's thinking, feeling, mood, ability to relate to others and daily functioning. Did all these gunmen really have problems in their daily functioning? Maybe not. Some of them were able to write lengthy manifestos before gunning down their victims; some were able to go to social media to brag about their prospective shooting; some were able to plan their killing with logistic details and accuracy. Did they behave like those with mental illness? Most probably not. Maybe many of us have the mental illness in that our minds don't function optimally as they should. In that respect, we all have some form of mental illness.

The behaviors of these killers might seem to be inexplicably cruel, inhuman, and unconscionable. But they were by no means mentally ill. They simply could not let go of their ego-self (they all felt rejected by society, not having a girlfriend or low self-esteem)

Maybe the wisdom of Lao Tzu, also known as Tao wisdom (The word "Tao" comes from the ancient Chinese classic "Tao Te Ching" the only book written by Lao Tzu, which has become one of the most translated works in world literature) can explain why those killers had that inexplicable mindset to kill in order to attract attention.. 

That unique but complex mindset is a result of not "letting go." In life, we all have to learn how to let go of everything, including life itself.  Throughout life, we all have to let go of our children (when they go to college, get married, or even die ahead of us); we all have to let go of material things, such as career, money etc.); we all have to let go of our memories (memories of the unpleasant in the form of anger, bitterness, or vengeance, as well as memories of the pleasant in the form of desires and expectations). If we do not and cannot let go of our emotions, we develop mind disorder, which is compulsive mental obsession of one thing to the exclusion of everything else.

This is how the perplexing mindset of a killer is developed. An individual is fired from his job. His perceptions of disappointment, dissatisfaction. injustice, racial prejudice, and discrimination, among others, become registered in his mind as memories. Without the power of letting go, that individual's mind will continue to generate more negative thoughts in the subconscious mind until the breaking point. If that individual has an aggressive or a violent nature, then he may resort to gun violence. .

It is all about letting go, which is the essence of Tao wisdom. But why is it so difficult to let go? It is all because of the ego-self. We all have an ego -- which makes us feel self-important. Careers, relationships, money, material things, and success -- they all inflate our ego, giving us the identity we crave for. So, to let go of all these things, we must let go of the ego first and foremost. 

To illustrate my point, the gunman who gunned down the reporter and her cameraman was fired, and his ego was completely deflated, leading to negative emotions that he could not let go of. Obsession is the culmination of not letting go. The killer was not mentally ill; he was simply obsessed with his deflated ego that he would not and could not let go of.

Be A Better and Happier You With Tao Wisdom may help you let go of your ego first and then other things that prevent you from living your life as if everything is a miracle.

Stephen Lau 
Copyright© by Stephen Lau