I like the following quotes:
“The best inspirer of hope is the best physician.” Jean Charcot
“Cancer is a word, not a sentence.” John Diamond
Below is an excerpt from my book: Congratulation. You've Got Cancer.
The Devastating Mental Shock
If, unfortunately, you or you loved ones are diagnosed with cancer, the traumatic experience often comes with a devastating mental shock. The initial feelings are usually disbelief (Are you kidding me?), followed by anger or injustice (Why me?), and then self-pity or self-blame (It’s all my fault!). The traumatic mental experience is unspeakable and indescribable.
If being diagnosed with cancer is a big deal, then why is it such a big deal?
For decades, the medical community and the pharmaceutical industry have knowingly or unknowingly instilled fear in the minds of the general public. Cancer spells “death,” and cancer is “incurable.” To be diagnosed with cancer is a big deal because it is all in the mind—your mind. Cancer is only the second greatest killer of human diseases in the world, after heart disease. If a person is diagnosed with a heart disease, the news may not come as shocking and traumatic as that of being diagnosed with cancer. One reason is that the individual may well be aware of the presence of the heart problem, as indicated by the body weight or some other tale-telling symptoms of heart disease. Perhaps the more obvious reason why being diagnosed with heart disease is less frightening is in the mental self-delusion that “it may not happen to me right away.” In reality, heart disease is more fatal than cancer, and can strike suddenly without any warning in the form of strokes and heart attacks. However, in the mind’s eye, having diagnosed with cancer is tantamount to having a death sentence pronounced on one, and the date of execution is only a matter of time.
The Reality Check
Like all other life experiences, having cancer is just a fact of life—which, at best, is a bed of roses with many prickly thorns. Everybody has some health problems sooner or later: some have more serious ones than others; some get them sooner than others. Mortality is built into our genes to ensure human frailty and eventual demise.
After the initial denial, the reality of cancer begins to sink in. On the one hand, a patient may fall into an abyss of despair; on the other hand, the patient may brace himself or herself to confront the enemy. It all depends on the mind of the individual.
Yes, getting the disease of cancer is a big deal! But you have to deal with it one way or another. Accepting the reality of your health condition will, surprisingly, free you from negative thoughts. In the Bible, when Jesus said: “The truth will make you free.” (John 8:32), He meant not only freeing from sins, but also freedom from negative thoughts of despair and hopelessness that may only further damage health.
The only reality check is to muster your courage and willpower to change some life habits, including your diet, exercise routine, and relaxation techniques—more specifically, changing your beliefs, attitudes, and thought patterns. In other words, help your mind help your cancer.
The Right Mindset
No matter what, you need the right mindset to take the right action to begin the right process toward healing and recovery from cancer. Whether you like it or not, you need to see your doctor to discuss your conditions and treatment plans. Again, your mind plays a pivotal role in gathering information in order to ask the appropriate questions to determine if the physician is right for you, or to help you choose the right treatment plan for your cancer.
Copyright © Stephen Lau