Believing in Yourself Is Mind Power

Believing in yourself is self-efficacy. Believing in yourself is confidence in your own ability, knowing what you have to do to win or simply to get what you want in life.

Diane Sawyer once said: “Whatever you want in life, other people are going to want it too. Believe in yourself enough to accept the idea that you have an equal right to it.” 

Believing in yourself is one of the first steps to success in doing anything that becomes the very substance of your confidence. To have confidence, you must set goals, and achieving your goals helps you build more confidence.

The only stumbling block to believing in yourself is your inability to achieve: some of your goals at some points in your life. This stumbling block may create negativity in the form of victimization. In other words, you may find you are a victim of circumstances; this may also lead to bitterness, despair, or even anger.

One of the reasons why sometimes you don’t have self-efficacy is your past. You could have been haunted by your past failures that generated regrets, bitterness, and disappointments that you have not been able to let go of. Attachment to the past is always a stumbling block to moving ahead.

The Wisdom of Letting Go

The wisdom of letting go shows you how to use the ancient Tao wisdom from China to live in the present moment, and, more importantly, to let go of the past. With both  human wisdom and spiritual wisdom from the Bible, you may start believing in yourself again. With self-efficacy, you can do anything at any stage of your life, and the sky is the limit. 

Stephen Lau

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A Better Brain and Memory

Do you want to have a better brain and memory even as you age? If yes, then don't let your mind slip!

The human brain has great potential—even for those for who have dementia or memory problems. Your have fully utilized only a fraction of what the human mind is capable of. Therefore, it is never too late to harness the untapped potential of your mind. Don't let your mind slip!

Years ago, Richard Welch, scientist and researcher, developed a reading speed program, and in the process of research and development also discovered an amazing scientific program called Mental Photography. His amazing scientific proven phenomenon can help you harness 98 percent of your untapped brain.

How does Mental Photography work?

Richard Welch’s state-of-the-art system trains your subconscious mind so your memory becomes razor sharp. According to his groundbreaking research, if you have acquired the ability to absorb information speedily, you can then effectively store the information in your long-term memory. No only that, you can store every single word in your long-term memory for life, such that you will never forget it and you can always retrieve it at your will.

But how do you remember it in the first place?

A razor sharp memory requires concentration and focus. Richard Welch uses Albert Einstein’s “Distraction Index” which is a simple but extremely effective exercise that gives you 100 percent laser targeted focus and concentration. He shows step-by-step how you can spend 10 minutes a day just to maintain what you have stored in your long-term memory. You will be able to retrieve the information at any time, and automatically remember things that were once forgotten. Isn’t that remarkable?

Senior moments are common among seniors. But it does not have to be like that. A better brain with a powerful memory and targeted focus will give you an edge in every aspect of life, even as you continue to age. Mental Photography can effectively reduce the amount of sleep you need and make you wake up feeling great with more energy and enthusiasm than ever before. Help your brain remember the things you wish to remember. Do not let your mind slip. Brain health holds the key to longevity health.

For more information on how to build a better brain, go to ZOX Mind Training System.

Stephen Lau

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Dealing with Anger

Dealing with Anger

Anger or rage is an ineffective and inefficient way to resolve any daily issue or make any problem go away. It is a negative emotion that may lead to depression, if it is not properly addressed. According to scientific studies, strong negative emotions, such as anger, can create destructive mental energy that is health damaging.

So, how do you take care of your negative emotions?

Conventional wisdom is to use distraction to defuse and dissipate the sudden anger or rage.

Thomas Jefferson famously said, “When angry, count 10, before you speak; if very angry, 100.” 

According to Lao Tzu, the ancient sage from China, whose profound wisdom is known as TAO, we should do the following when we are angry:

Take a deep breath, review the situation, and ask yourself one simple question: why are you here in this situation?

Don’t hold your anger in; instead, let it go, by breathing it out. Don’t let it go as pain; instead, let it go as your acceptance. Don’t let your acceptance be viewed as a sign of your own weakness; instead, let it be a statement of your own communication to yourself that getting angry will not resolve the situation.

Remember, anger is always present to serve a purpose to release some deeper issues, problems, and internal conflicts that you may be carrying in your own bag and baggage all these years. It is always better to release anger than to turn it around to destroy yourself. Suppressing anger, on the other hand, is also self-destructive, as the negative energy redirects itself back into your own body. Anger in itself is always a path of destruction no matter what. Resolve anger by developing habits that may release internal conflicts in a constructive manner before it can be released as rage.

Remember, the world always reflects your actions. If you lash out in rage, then the world lashes back at you with that same rage causing pain or grief that still has to get resolved. There is no true “release” of anger, except by resolution.

TAO teaches that peace is the true warrior’s path. The sword while an option is never used with anger, or you may have lost from the start. According to Lao Tzu, “The best fighter is never becoming angry.”

Stephen Lau

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Why Letting Go of Attachments in Life

Why Letting Go of Attachments in Life

The dark side of attachments

Desire

Attachments create desire, and desire generates an expectation. To guarantee the fulfillment of the expectation, the mind has to make choices—not so much the choices between doing what is right and what is wrong, as the choices between doing what can and cannot repeat the past success, as well as what can and cannot avoid the future failure. In the process of making these difficult choices, the mind may becomes unduly stressed, leading to anxiety, frustration, and disappointment. Human desire is the root cause of all human woes.

“There is no greater sin than desire,

No greater curse than discontent,

No greater misfortune than wanting something for oneself.

Therefore he who knows that enough is enough

 will always have enough.”

(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 46)

Control

Control is the byproduct of attachments, a tool used by the mind to perpetuate the attachments.

“The world is ruled by letting things take their course.
It cannot be ruled by interfering.”

(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 48)

Most of us are controlling to a greater or less extent. We, as parents, control our children’s destiny by striving to steer them clear of the wrong path we had previously treaded ourselves.

Our culture tells us that we should be in control of everything around us at all times; controlling, to many, is synonymous with independence.

But controlling is not Tao because it is an unnatural way of running away from everyday problems, instead of embracing them. Controlling is a direct or subtle way of exerting influence over others so that we may have power over the turn of events in our lives. In other words, we delusively think we can make things happen the way we want them to happen in our lives through control and manipulation of others. Of course, it is only a wishful thinking that we can have total control of what happens in our lives.

Indisputably, life is forever changing, whether we like it or not. Just learn to accept the fact that we are sometimes helpless to stop an unwelcome change in our lives. Paradoxically, accepting that unwelcome change may surprisingly bring us peace of mind. Unfortunately, many of us simply choose to avoid it by controlling people who, we think, may either cause or avert that unwelcome change. Control stems from fear and worry, which are projections of the mind into the future, and which are the major factors of stress.

How often we control our children, our parents, our friends, and our co-workers without being aware of our control.

To let go of control requires courage. Mark Twain once said humorously about the cure for insomnia: “Try lying on the edge of the bed, then you might drop off.” Indeed, to go to sleep, you must have the courage to let go of your thoughts before you can fall asleep—just like letting go of the fear when lying on the edge of the bed.

“. . . sometimes it’s necessary to go a long distance out of the way in order to come back a short distance correctly.” Edwar Albee

The bright side of non-attachment

Spontaneity instead of choices

But, with the wisdom of Tao, life does not have to be filled with difficult choices and anxious expectations. Spontaneity is the solution, the secret to the art of living well: letting nature run its natural course.

”Empty yourself of everything.
Let your mind rest at peace.
Watch the workings of all of creation,

and contemplate their return.
They grow and flourish and then return to the source.
Returning to the source is stillness,

which is the way of nature.
The way of nature is unchanging.”

(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 16)

Spontaneity is similar to what is said in the Bible: “Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?” (Matthew 26: 26)

Do not over-worry because things do not turn out the way you think they should.

”That which shrinks

Must first expand.

That which fails,

Must first be strong.

That which is cast down

Must first be raised.

Before receiving, there must be giving.

This is called perception of the nature of things.

Soft and weak overcome hard and strong.”

(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 36)

Stephen Lau

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