Happiness is an essential ingredient in the art of living well. Happiness comes from emotional, mental, and physical wellness, which are all interconnected because they align the body, the mind, and the soul to enable living as if everything is a miracle.
Good human relationships play a pivotal role in emotional, mental, and physical fitness of an individual. However, good human relationships are hard to come by.
Any good relationship always begins with “self” first.
Good human relationships play a pivotal role in emotional, mental, and physical fitness of an individual. However, good human relationships are hard to come by.
Any good relationship always begins with “self” first.
Here are some advice on
maintaining good relationships:
(1) Be ready to be
the first one to
take the first step to
enhance and maintain good relationships. Have the wisdom of focusing on
others rather than self. Deference to mindfulness of others first holds
the key to maintaining good relationships.
Always be in mindfulness
of others.
(2) Be grateful that you
have the generosity of heart. You may be more blessed than others in that you
have a greater capacity for mindfulness than others. Cicero, the
great Roman orator, once said: “Gratitude
is not only the greatest of virtues but also the mother of all the rest.”
Always be grateful for
your blessed gift of mindulness of others in your healthy living.
(3) Be positive of others. The great
Chinese philosopher, Mencius,once
said: “The feeling of
compassion is the beginning of benevolence; the feeling of shame and
self-reproach, the beginning of righteousness; the feeling of courtesy and
modesty, the beginning of propriety; the feeling of right and wrong, the
beginning of wisdom. These four beginnings are like the four limbs of man and
to deny oneself any of these potentialities is to cripple oneself.”
Always embrace mindfulness
of the four beginnings of Mencius in
your healthy living.
(4) Be pleasant.
Cultivate and develop a cheerful demeanor, a pleasant outlook — the attitude
that every problem in life has a solution of some sort.
Always demonstrate
mindfulness of positive outlook in your healthy living.
(5) Stop
complaining. Keep all complaints to yourself—unless voicing your complaints
will improve the situation.
Always resign in
mindfulness of contentment in any trying situation.
(6) Try to see the good in
others. Wherever possible, give them the benefit of the doubt.
Always be in mindfulness
of others’ behavior.
(7) Be mindful of your
behavior towards others. According to C.S. Lewis, you may need to “put on a friendly manner and behave as
if you were a nicer person than you actually are.” In this way,
you will be “really
friendly than you were.”
Always act in mindfulness
towards others.
(8) Expect less of
others. Never expect others to reciprocate; if they do, let that be a pleasant
surprise.
Always expect no
mindfulness from others in your healthy living.
If you follow all the above, you will be a better and happier individual.
Mindfulness begins with awareness of what is happening to and around you, especially your actions, reactions, and interactions with others. Remember, you are living in a world of speed and compulsiveness, which focuses much on the self, instead of others.
If you follow all the above, you will be a better and happier individual.
Mindfulness begins with awareness of what is happening to and around you, especially your actions, reactions, and interactions with others. Remember, you are living in a world of speed and compulsiveness, which focuses much on the self, instead of others.
Stephen Lau
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